Relationships Went From Being Sacred...

To being the butt end of a joke...

My Husband and I have been together for almost fourteen and a half years but we've been married for almost six and a half years. I'm not going to say that it was easy, because it wasn't, but I will say that every troublesome moment has been worth it; those moments have allowed us to get to the peace and tranquility that we are enjoying today. The things that go on in our relationship are no one's business but our own and we make it a habit to keep it that way.

I'm noticing, more often than not, that there are a lot of people who treat being in a relationship like some sort of joke. Never at any given moment should anyone know the ins and outs of your relationship. An occasional, trusted, confidant (or even two) maybe but not ALL of those around you. Not everyone on any social network that you have an account with. Not random strangers on the street. Quite frankly, not even your family should really know the inner workings of your relationship.

If you truly want your relationship to work, then outside interference won't do.

When so many people know your business, then they feel entitled to give THEIR OPINION about YOUR BUSINESS. Nothing irks me more than when unwanted advice is given; especially on a situation that the person knows nothing about. If you make a decision that they don't agree with, then they feel like they have a right to be personally offended by it.

Infidelity, poor money managing, "baby momma/daddy" drama, domestic violence, horrible parenting, a questionable sex life; these are a lot of things that I see/hear about people that I don't even know, especially on a personal level. Smh. I guess some people just don't care what information they share with the world anymore...

Sometimes, All You Need...

Is. Just. One. Day...

Life gets hectic. The faster it goes, the faster we go with it. The slower it goes. the slower we go with it. Life is constantly on the move and therefore, so are we.

Oftentimes, we get so caught up in the steady pace of life that we forget about ourselves. We forget that our bodies need to rest. We even forget about our minds; they need to rest as well. We forget that all of our being needs to breathe, needs to be cared for, needs to be nurtured, but most importantly we forget that our being needs a rest.

I know that I certainly forgot lately.

On 9/5/14, I flew with my mother and brother for an overnight trip to Las Vegas. I had not been on a plane in about 22 years, so the plane ride there was an experience in and of itself. I am pleased to say that to and from Las Vegas, I came across some very nice people and that reassured me that all was not lost within humanity. Anyway, I had never been to Vegas and though we were only there for about a day, it was a break well deserved and most definitely needed. Seeing something different, new even, allowed me to rejuvenate myself enough to continue on with the steady pace in which my life had taken on. I was able to refresh myself so that any adversity that I faced, now seemed completely trivial in the grand scheme of things. It was pretty much exactly what I needed.

No matter what is going on in your life, ALWAYS take time out for yourself. Do something you love, see something new, take a mini vacay; it doesn't matter what it is as long you do SOMETHING. Sometimes, all you need is a day...

We are constantly on the move, but that doesn't mean that our being has to be. It's okay to just STOP every now and again because when you burn out, the world will still continue to spin...